Let me start off by saying, WE ARE EQUAL. Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, I’d like to describe the nonsense I hear “around the table” talking to my family members: “Ya know, the blacks don’t help each other, like the whites do” “The whites don’t care about nobody but themselves.” “You can only take [being around] whites in small doses, huh?” asked my Uncle one day. “Are you ignorant?’ I thought to myself. Anyway, all of this chatter about how “White America” has it out for the black race, in unison with all the chatter I hear among black people (my family included) serves me no indication that the “white man” is out to get me. In fact, the malarkey that I hear is an direct indication of black people and their cultivated hatred towards whites. I am not letting the gavel fall on my own race because racism is prevalent among us all unfortunately. But my point is that it makes little sense that you’re pleading for justice while justifying your own racism, it’s ignorant and describes an unlearned individual.
Back to my family…
To sit around at visits and holiday functions having to hear their talk (negative) about whites, hispanic, asians, etc…, makes me apprehensive to bring anyone I may date in the future around them, and the reason for this is that I frequently date outside of my race, because I find white men attractive, even as a young girl, I thought they were, and since then I’ve struggled wondering if there was something wrong with me, and the feeling that I may have betrayed my own race by going outside of it. Now, I don’t see things that way, but I still fear bringing whomever I wind up with around my family because I for see judgement. It’s so bad I’ve even had nightmares about having a child by a man who’s white and my family being absolutely furious over it. I really do think that we are all equal and at this point in our world the only thing that is separating us is our economic stance, other than that, we are all of the human race, we do all the normal things that as a HUMAN RACE that really should not separate us, and truly does not if you look closely.
Question: If this was your family, how would you deal with this? How would you approach dating, would you convey to your love interest, or even your friends that you family is intolerant of other races besides their own?